While all of us are in TOTAL agreement that to lose a loved one, a son, is a terrible thing, but no one MADE him join. There is no draft. No one forced him to go. He joined of his own volition and gave all to his country, his unit, his squad.
Of course NO ONE wants to die young, but if he could rise from his grave, he'd probably tell his mom a thing or two. Maybe tell her that he loves her and that he misses her and then tell her to go home and grieve in private with their loved ones.
Yes, Papa, when you lost your brother and your parents lost their son, your mum didn't go to President Roosevelt and call him names and blame him. Cindy if you want to blame someone, blame the terrorists. Place the blame where the blame lies. Good grief.
The way the world is today, NONE of us are safe. Cindy, do you remember 9-11? Those people were eating breakfast and going to work and going to school. They weren't soldiers and they all died. Who's to blame there? Should they not have gone to work and school that day? Was it President Bush's fault? No, it was the terrorists fault?
Cindy, your son could die anywhere. He could die in the USA defending his country against another attack. He could die innocently anywhere boarding a subway that was under attack from terrorists ANYWHERE in the world. What would you have done then? Who would you have blamed Mrs. Sheehan? Life is never easy. Losing a loved one at anytime under any circumstance is never easy. Sometimes life downright sucks. 
But your son was proud to be a soldier and you at least owe him some dignity in death. Go home. Our hearts go out to you, but go home.
Proud Daughter of Walter (Monday) Poniedzialek
540th Engineer Combat Regiment, 2833rd Bn, H&S Co, 4th Platoon
There's "No Bridge Too Far"